According to Dr. John Gottman, the average couple waits for six years of their marriage being in crisis before they go for therapy. What are you waiting for? More pain? More trauma?
85% of marriage problems are brought in from your family of origin
What is YOUR 85%?
The two most important components of marriage are commitment and communication. If you have commitment but no communication, you are heading for a “dead marriage.”
Is your communication based on reactivity? (Many times the source is pain from your family of origin.) Are you an external or internal communicator? (Do you need the bottom line to feel safe or do you need to use your words and talk through things before you feel safe?)
How do you change conflict into problem resolution? Learning to problem solve is the hardest challenge for marriages. Usually, the problem resolution ends off in conflict, not a win-win answer for both parties.
Is your marriage a “team” for God’s purposes?
What is your God-given redemptive gift? What is your spouse’s God-given redemptive gift? (Romans 12 gifts and callings) You may be trying to change your spouse’s God-given unique qualities! Learn your redemptive gifts as a couple so that your marriage can be a “team” for God’s Kingdom building purposes! Possess your birthright in your marriage!
Treating Marriage Counseling as Trauma Resolution
Has your communication style as a couple created attachment panic for you and your spouse? Through Trudy’s decade + of working with couples, she came to the realization that couples can actually get traumatized by their dysfunctional communication and styles of relating in their marriage relationship. Many times this communication reactivity can result in each party feeling completely traumatized and immobilized.
When an impossible marriage presents itself, Trudy treats the marriage counseling the same way she would launch head- on into trauma resolution for individuals. Sometimes couples can get triggered by the mere physical presence of their spouse! This creates additional attachment panic when couples start distancing their hearts to stay self-protected and safe.
Trudy uses Holy-Spirit led trauma resolution techniques to expose guarded hearts and attachment panic in relationships with couples. Talk therapy cannot get to the depth of these deep-seated relationship issues. This cutting-edge marriage counseling technique will be different than anything you’ve ever tried.
When couples can have new eyes to see each other’s attachment brokenness, great strides can be made to rebuild the marriage.
How things work at the A’nesis Intensive Marriage Retreat
You are required to take the Gottman Relationship Check-up BEFORE you attend your intensive. This evaluation will take you 60-90 minutes to complete. The Gottman Relationship Checkup not only automatically scores a couple’s strengths and challenges, but takes years off the time required to make headway in the counseling process. The cost for you as a couple is $29.00.
YOU MAY NOT ATTEND THE RETREAT IF THIS PIECE OF THE INTENSIVE IS NOT COMPLETED BEFORE YOUR ARRIVAL.
Fully HIPAA compliant, the questionnaire consists of 480 questions about friendship, intimacy, emotions, conflict, values, and trust, as well as parenting, housework, finances, individual areas of concern, and more.
This relationship assessment relies on intensive, detailed, and evidence- based information on why relationships succeed or fail. Developed from over 40 years of scientific research by Dr. John Gottman, this relationship assessment tool relies on intensive, detailed, and evidence-based information on why relationships succeed or fail.
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You arrive for your intensive marriage retreat in time to begin your first season on Tuesday of the week of your intensive, starting at 1:30PM. This session lasts three hours. Wednesday, Thursday and Friday you also meet with Trudy at 1:30PM for three hours.
Saturday’s session is 9:00Am-12:00pm. Hopefully, you will have one night of relaxation and fun before returning home on Sunday.